..a multi billion dollar question..marry or not to marry? because it is proved fact that, a marriage is a candy, if,is eaten or not eaten..you would not be able to be satisfied at the end…..so it is always better to be dissatisfied by eating it!!!!!
my big brother from Canada, has sent me the mail about this dilemma……read every word carefully…you will have the answer….
By all Means… MARRY!
I
recently read that love is entirely a matter of chemistry.
That must be why my wife treats me like toxic waste.
DavidBissonette
When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.
Sacha Guitry
After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can’t face each other, but still they stay together.
Hemant Joshi
By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll be happy. If you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.
Socrates
Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them.
Dumas
The great question… which I have not been able to answer… is, “What does a woman want?
Sigmund Freud
I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me.
Anonymous
“Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays.”
Henny Youngman
“I don’t worry about terrorism. I was married for two years.”
Sam Kinison
“There’s a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It’s called marriage.”
James Holt McGavran
“I’ve had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me, and the second one didn’t.”
Patrick Murray
Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming
1. Whenever you’re wrong, admit it,
2. Whenever you’re right, shut up.
Nash
The most effective way to remember your wife’s birthday is to forget it once…
Anonymous
You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to.
Henny Youngman
My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met.
Rodney Dangerfield
A good wife always forgives her husband when she’s wrong.
Milton Berle
Marriage is the only war where one sleeps with the enemy.
Anonymous
A man inserted an ‘ad’ in the classifieds: “Wife wanted”. Next day he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: “You can have mine.”
Anonymous
First Guy (proudly): “My wife’s an angel!”
Second Guy: “You’re lucky, mine’s still alive.”
SEND THIS TO ALL THE GUYS TO GIVE THEM A GOOD LAUGH……AND TO THOSE LADIES WITH A SENSE OF HUMOUR WHO CAN HANDLE IT!!!!!!!
then..say love is everything except marriage…which may ruin it..!!!!!
after a long break of almost 5 years…today my friends and hostel-mates Kartik and Rinit met me. everything has been changed but the freshness of the relations is intact. The changes like marriage,new sweet members in the family,new degrees,new jobs and many new things to talk endlessly. I have seen the photos of Kartik and his sweet family inclusive Rinit on their blogs but today we met in person..the face to face rendezvous is the last thing of expressing yourself!!!
the little master Kavin as seen on blog,is in fact not so peace-loving!!!!his dad and mom has many true stories to expose his adventures in front of the public!!!!!( keep it in your mind…the elections are coming and charaters,nature of the candidate is supreme). So, the little Kavin is a cheater…cheating the poor public by his innocent gestures……
So, the friend ship is the Sheep with thickest coat of wool to protect loving one from any kind of unwanted circumstances and keep the warmth of friendship intact…..hence…few things are eternal in life and the great friends are one of them…..
okey..Kartik(Maha CA) and rinit(CA) ……I prey the almighty to give you all,which can make us enough proud to say…hey…they are my friends!!!!!!! keep it on…
Now a days you will find to have few things difficult…which are they? Right…right…they are..Gor Maharaj, Caterors,marriage halls,event management facilities and even horse to make groom ride!
I married in May month, the month of scorching sun! the reason was my dad..he wanted to cater his guests with cold delicacies in that hot summer and also having all relatives to be present in the ceremony without any difficulties as the vacation time was there.
But personally i feel that the winter season is the best for this kind of ceremony as at least no problems in terms of high temperatures and suit-difficulties are obsolete. You can wear anything without much pondering on..The food can have many varieties without any chances of food reaction as that can happen in hot atmosphere………but as the truth of life prevails……marriages are made in heaven and enjoyed on earth..so the saga of joy always be there,irrespective of hot or cold extremities.
So, enjoy the knot and ties…the delicacies…and the truths..nothing else.
let see what wikipedia is telling about our marriage rituals….
The Main Rituals
All of the rituals very based on FaMiLy traditions. The names of the rituals also vary.
Approximately 15 days prior to the actual wedding, on an auspicious day, the pundit will perform a puja to Lord Ganesh (the remover of obstacles). During this puja, a piece of mauli (thread) is tied to the hands of the groom, and his parents. This puja is done to make a humble request to Lord Ganesh that the wedding happen without any problems, beside the occasional mishap e.g. tripping over. After that day, the family performs a puja to Lord Ganesh every day until after the wedding is complete. ****
The mayara[clarification needed] is an important ceremony, common to both the bride and the groom’s families. This ceremony is performed by the maternal uncle of the groom/bride, who, along with his wife and family, arrives with much fanfare, and is received by the bride/groom’s mother with the traditional welcome. The clothes that the uncle gives are then worn by the family during the wedding.
The sangeet sandhya is an evening of musical entertainment. The bride’s family puts on a show for the groom and bride. Included as part of this event is an introduction of all the family members for the bride.
Tilak is a mark of auspiciousness. It is put on the forehead using Kumkum, a red turmeric powder. The male members of the bride’s family, like her father, brother, uncles place a tilak on the forehead of the groom. This is typically followed by giving some gifts to the groom and the groom’s accompanying family members requesting them to take care of the bride later.
Another name for “Vivaah” is “haath pila karna” or simply translated, making hands yellow. Mehendi (henna) is applied to the bride’s hands and feet. In the right hand, a round spot is left open for Hathlewa.
The groom, leaves for the wedding venue riding a decorated horse or elephant. This is a very colorful and grand ceremony. The groom is dressed in a sherwani (long jacket) and ‘churidars’ (fitted trousers). On his head he wears a ‘sehra’ (turban) with a ‘kalgi’ (brooch) pinned onto it. The turban usually has flowers extending from it to keep the grooms face covered during the wedding ceremony.
Before he departs, his relatives apply the ceremonial ‘tilak‘ on his forehead and his sister feeds the horse or elephant sweetened grain. The ‘baraat’ (consisting of the groom seated on the horse or elephant, and relatives and friends of the groom) is headed by the dancing of the congregated folks. Accompanied by the rhythm of the north Indian dholak, the baraat reaches the place of the wedding.
Upon arriving at the venue of the wedding, the groom is welcomed by a welcome song. This is called “talota”. Then the groom knocks on the door with his sword and enters.
The groom is led to a small stage where he is greeted and “showered” by the bride’s family with flowers. The maternal uncle, brother or brides’ best friends bring the bride to the stage. The bride and the groom are handed the garlands while the priest is chanting the religious hymns. Following this, the groom and bride exchange garlands, which are the var mala’ or tejay mala. signifying their acceptance of each other as husband and wife. Then, the groom’s mother-in-law measures the groom’s chest, and pokes and prods him to make sure he is tough enough to defend her daughter. She then puts kajal on the groom to ward off evil spirits. This is followed by aarti.
The ‘baraatis’ (groom’s party) are received by the bride’s family and at the entrance to the wedding venue. The bride’s mother welcomes the groom by performing the ‘aarti’ (traditional Indian welcome ritual with a lamp or ‘diya’ placed on a platter or ‘thali’) to welcome her son-in-law and placing a tilak on his forehead
This event takes place the day of the wedding. The bride’s sisters hide the groom’s shoes and ask for money if he (groom) wants them back and be able to go home with the bride.
Kanya Daan is performed by the father of the bride in presence of a large gathering that is invited to witness the wedding.
The father pours out libation of sacred water symbolizing the giving away of the daughter to the bride groom. The groom recites Vedic hymns to Kama, the god of love, for pure love and blessings.
As a condition for offering his daughter for marriage, the father of the bride requests a promise from the groom for assisting the bride in realizing the three ends :
The groom makes the promise by repeating three times that he will not fail the bride in realizing dharma, artha and kama.
This ritual is performed early on before Phere. Ideally, the parents of the bride place the right hand of the bride over the right hand of the groom and place their own left hands at the bottom and the right hands (the two of them) on top, securing the Conch with gold, betel nut, flowers and a little fruit (in it) placed in bride’s hand. It is at this point that the purpose of the Kanyadaan is clearly stated per scripture ( kamo daata…, etc)and the names of the parents and forefathers are stated from both sides. Wedding can not legally proceed without this Kanyadaan step in which parents of the bride agree to the wedding.
This must be remembered that in Hindu Wedding, the bride and groom marry each other and the priest only assists with the Mantra. He can not declare them married as no authority is vested in him to do so. Agni, gods and the invited members of the family and friends are the witness.
NOTE : Also, Kanyadaan must not be treated like a Godaan[clarification needed] in which the cow/ calf is given away with the rope with no subsequent rights on the objects gifted away. Knyadaan still leaves parents with certain rights on their daughter. It is in recognition of that residual right that the daughter can and does perform a partial shraddh[clarification needed] on their demise just like the son does – only a more elaborate one.
After being led to the wedding mandup, the bride and groom have their hands tied together. The priest does a puja to Lord Ganesh and then puts a coin & mehendi on the groom’s right hand where the round empty spot is (where no mehendi was put) and ties his hand with the brides. This puja is done schedule in advance based on an auspicious time & date.
Tying a knot using the ends of the clothing worn by the bride and groom. The priest ties the end of the groom’s dhoti or the kurta; whichever he is wearing, with that of the bride’s saree, the knot signifying the sacred wedlock.
[edit]Laja Homa and circumambulation (लाजा होम and परिक्रमा)
The ritual connotes the actual core wedding ceremony, for the very meaning of the word “vivaah” is-marriage[citation needed]. The groom and the bride then circle the holy fire seven times, making seven promises to be fulfilled in the married life, after which they are considered to be ‘married’ to each other. This ritual is called “phere”.
The bridegroom gets up from his seat holding his bride’s right hand. He then goes around the Holy Fire (Agni) from the right side, by lifting his bride’s right foot at each step. This is done for seven steps. With each step, he recites a mantra addressed to the bride with the following meaning.
:To provide for food always.
:To give you excellent health and energy.
:Todained in Vedas, during your life time.
:To give you happiness in life.
:To make your cows and good animals to grow in strength and in numbers.
:To make all the seasons be beneficial to you.
:To make the homams (sacrifices to be done in Holy Fire) to be performed by you in your life as ordained in Vedas, successful and free from hindrances.
The idea behind this is to pray to Lord Vishnu, the protector of life, for his blessings in marital life. The groom then recites a mantra to convey the following meaning:
After crossing seven steps with me thus, you should become my friend. I too have become your friend now. I will never discard this friendship and you should also not do that. Let us be together always. Let us resolve to do things in life in the same manner and tread the same path. Let us lead a life by liking and loving each other, having good hearts and thoughts, and enjoying the food and our strong points together. Let us have undivided opinions. We will perform the vrithas united. Let us have same and joint desires. I will be Sama (one of the vedas); you will be Rig (another Veda). Let me be the Heaven; you be the Earth. Let me be the Shukla (Moon) and you be its wearer. Let me be the mind and you its spokesman (Vak). With these qualities, you be my follower. You the sweet tongued, come to me to get good male children and wealth.
This is considered to be the most emotional ritual, when the bride leaves her parents’ home and makes her way to her husband’s. Family and friends, who also shower her with blessings and gifts, give her a tearful farewell. The male members of the bride’s family bid farewell to the groom by applying the traditional ’tilak’ (vermilion) on his forehead and shower him with gifts.
In earlier times the bride use to leave in a palanquin. These days the couple leaves in a decorated car.
After Vidaai, the couple first visits a temple, preferably that of Lord Rama and Sita, to seek their blessing from where they move towards Groom’ house.
After leaving the groom’s father-in-law’s house, the couple come home. They are stopped at the entrance of the house by either the groom’s sister or his father’s sister. There, in an earthen vessel, the sister/aunt uses a mixture of salt and water to ward off evil spirits from the groom. After this, the pot is thrown on the ground and destroyed. After this, the couple enter the house.
When the bride arrives at her new home, her mother-in-law, who welcomes her with the traditional ‘Aarti’. At the entrance, she puts her right foot onto a tray of vermilion powder mixed in water or milk, symbolizing the arrival of good fortune and purity. With both her feet now covered in the red powder paste, she kicks over a vessel filled with rice and coins to denote the arrival of fertility and wealth in her marital home.
The family now indulges in a series of games and post-wedding rituals, amidst much laughter to make the new member feel comfortable. One such ritual is the Mooh dikhai. Literally translated, Mooh Dikhai means ‘show your face’, but this is a ritual, which helps to introduce the newly wed to members of her husband’s family! Each member of the groom’s family comes in turn to make an acquaintance with the new bride.
Modern Hindu weddings are often much shorter and do not involve all of the rituals of the traditional ceremony which sometimes were for five days. Instead certain ceremonies are picked by the families of the bride and the groom depending on their family tradition, caste, jāti etc. Hence the ceremonies vary among the various ethnic groups that practice Hinduism. The wedding is normally conducted under a mandap, a canopy traditionally with four pillars, and an important component of the ceremony is the sacred fire (Agni) that is witness to the ceremony. Sometimes, the bride comes to her husband’s house in a doli which is a palanquin traditionally made of wood and decorated with jewels. Before the wedding party departs to the hindu temple, the priest will sometimes place a coconut under the tire. In the old days a horse-drawn carriage was
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